Thanks to Wendy for this week's QOTW!
Have the fears of being a parent that you had during pregnancy subsided? What are some new fears you have now that your baby is getting closer to a year old?
As usual, I'll go first!
During my pregnancy, I was mainly worried about my skills as a mom. I didn't know how I would handle everything. My fears have definitely subsided. I had no idea how naturally some things came to me. Now, I worry about a lot of thing. I worry about whether or not I'm doing enough to stimulate Nathan's mind. I worry about having to put him in daycare in August when I go back to work. I worry about something happening to me, DH, or him. I just can't believe our babies are coming up on a year old already! I want him to stay little forever. :)
~Leslie (MrsD_111106
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13 years ago
The fears that I had during my pregnancy (and the first few weeks after McKayla was born) have defintely subsided. I used to watch the clock and count the hours until my husband got home, just so I could have some help and some company!! I think it took at least three months for things to settle down and become normal-feeling again. But now I really enjoy the days we spend together, especially since we seem to have developed a routine.
ReplyDeleteLeslie, I also worry if I'm doing enough to stimulate McKayla's learning and growing. I try to talk to her all the time, read to her, play with her and explain things, but it's hard not to wonder if I'm doing enough. And of course now that she's mobile I'm so afraid that she'll really hurt herself!! I don't think the worry will ever end!!
~Devin (JaysGrl32903)
I was terrified that I would fail as a mom before Lily was born. I was sure I wouldn't recognize a cold symptom and it would turn into something worse. I still worry about that, but now that I know her so well I have more confidence that I would know when she was acting differently. When she was little I always worried that I was going to hurt her accidentally,now I just worry that she will hurt herself (creeping, crawling, pulling up on everything!). It's nice to know that other moms had the same kinds of fears and there is a place we can talk about it.
ReplyDeleteMy biggest fear when I was pregnant was Wyatt's health. I had a baby that died from CMV in 2001 so I was extra cautious when I got pregnant with Wyatt. I still worry about his health and try to avoid taking him places because of germs. I am getting better about it and I don't insist on people using sanitizer as soon as they walk in the door, holding him or not. I really think that I will always have a fear of something happening to him and I know that I cherish each day.
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ReplyDeleteI really don't think I thought enough about being a mom while I was pregnant. I thought a lot about labor, but not about what came after. This, of course, created a giant surprise when it didn't all come as naturally as I had imagined! I think the thing I worry about the most right now is living in the moment and cherishing these days with her. Sounds simple, but it's so easy to get caught up in all the business of life that you can forget that.
ReplyDeleteBefore becoming pregnant, and then while I was pregnant, and even now to some degree, I was terrified that I was going to do something to really screw Ian up as a person. I have worked with so many kids that have so many problems, that I didn't want my child to be in an environment that would hurt his well-being in any way. Now that he's here, that's subsided a little bit, but it still lurks in the back of my mind. I, like others have mentioned, hope that I'm doing enough to stimulate him and encourage him to grow, both physically and intellectually. Also, because he was born so small, I worry that he will be delayed in some way.
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